GAYE WRITES
If you are lucky enough, one day you will experience your version
of love; and honestly, there are few experiences in life that are more
precious. Unfortunately, somewhere along that journey you will probably witness
some unspeakable heartbreak, which (I assume) is necessary. Life’s not-so-secret ingredient is finding the
balance to endure both ends of the emotional spectrum. No matter what facet of life you are
undergoing, it always helps to have someone to share the voyage.
Well, on December 15, 1978, apparently Marvin Gaye wanted to get a few emotions off his shirtless chest. Unfortunately, for his ex, Marvin’s confidants were among many of the 222 million mostly Motown-ers living in America. If you know anything about the fire signs like Leo, Sagittarius & Marvin’s astrological sign Aries, they are – for better or worse -- relentlessly determined people…, which may sound like a compliment to anyone not named Anna Gordy.
Anna Gordy Gaye is the ex-wife of Motown’s finest solo act and the elder sister of the label’s founder, Berry Gordy -- and if technicalities matter, Marvin Gaye’s “boss.” Technicalities probably mattered to Marvin as much as cameras in an elevator did to Solange Knowles.
Well, on December 15, 1978, apparently Marvin Gaye wanted to get a few emotions off his shirtless chest. Unfortunately, for his ex, Marvin’s confidants were among many of the 222 million mostly Motown-ers living in America. If you know anything about the fire signs like Leo, Sagittarius & Marvin’s astrological sign Aries, they are – for better or worse -- relentlessly determined people…, which may sound like a compliment to anyone not named Anna Gordy.
Anna Gordy Gaye is the ex-wife of Motown’s finest solo act and the elder sister of the label’s founder, Berry Gordy -- and if technicalities matter, Marvin Gaye’s “boss.” Technicalities probably mattered to Marvin as much as cameras in an elevator did to Solange Knowles.
Anna and Marvin wed in June of 1963; and by
all of her accounts [and his admissions], their relationship was about as
authentic as a Jussie Smollett press conference.
Marvin Gaye just might be one of the greatest artists in
the history of modern music. Even with
arguably the greatest artist line-up in history, Marvin was the emperor. His outstanding Rock and Roll Hall of Fame discography
spanned nearly 3 decades. And, his
soulful signature songs were the soundtrack of social sobriety for black life
in America. Yet, at the peak of Gaye’s
unparalleled success, Anna filed for divorce—sighting Marvin’s extensive drug
use, his horrific money management misgivings, and his serial escapades of infidelity—including
one with a 17-year-old girl named, Janis Hunter, who Gaye eventually married..,
then divorced.
Two of Motown's Greatest
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This rocky romance is all captured on one of the greatest break-up
albums in history. The double LP is called
Here, My Dear, which is essentially
Marvin’s 73-minute diary of notes about his ex-wife.
Early tabulations confirmed that this project
was the least favorable of his career.
Upon its release the content was greeted by Motown executives like an episode
of Cheaters. One famous publication said
Here, My Dear sounded like a cheesy,
supermarket tabloid which is contrary to the “sugar pie honey bun” factory Berry Gordy spent decades
creating.
Here, My Dear ⧫ Marvin Gaye ⧫ Tamla-Motown Records ⧫ December 1978 |
Marvin admitted that some of
the songs were actually written during and after the courtroom divorce
proceedings. Anna was soured by the
experience and wanted to sue Marvin for $1 million dollars to part ways with the estranged
hubby. Marvin was apparently too pissed
to realize that despite his illustrious career, he didn’t have $1M to give her...even if wanted to.
The divorce grew painfully
public and extremely contentious. And at one point, the courts ordered Marvin to pay Anna $6,000 per month in child
support and alimony. Gaye’s retort..., (insert technicality), “I’m not obeying any f@#$ court order -- the only
thing I will do is take off my hat when I enter the courtroom..., maybe." The divorce got so messy that Anna
eventually had Marvin arrested as he fell far behind on the court-ordered
“agreement." Things didn’t change much
until Marvin’s lawyer came up with what seemed like a very bizarre notion at
the time. The idea was so preposterous
that ONLY an Aries man of Marvin’s eccentric energy and determination would
agree to it.
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The "deal” was Marvin would pay Anna $600,000 upfront (half
of which would come from the advance from his next LP), paid by Anna’s brother
Berry and the rest would come from the royalties of Gaye’s next album. Due to Gaye’s remarkable success and stellar résumé Anna agreed. After all, what could
possible go wrong with an angry can’t-miss, soul-singing, hit-maker recording an album..., knowing that ALL the proceeds would go to a women that he despises? Well, get your “Lemonade” ready.
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Nowhere is this more evident than on Gaye’s one man therapy
session “When Did You Stop Loving Me?”
On the song he (rhetorically) tells Anna… "If you ever loved me with all of
your heart, you'd never take a million dollars to part."
On another upper cut..., “Is That Enough,” his self-healing
takes a meditative turn when Gaye writes…..
"Somebody tell me please,
tell me please/Why do I have to pay attorney fees (My baby's) Attorney
fees...This is a joke/I need a smoke.”
The entire LP spins like a lyrical punching bag,and after
each song, Marvin’s salty sarcasm spreads like a Lewinski stain. Gaye’s pettiness
reached astronomic levels when it was time to play the LP for the Gordys. Because the LP was recorded in Marvin’s
personal studio, no one heard the finished project. So Marvin decided to rent a room that was
designed for conducting focus groups and hid behind a two-way mirror so his Ex’s couldn’t see his face. But he could watch theirs as they listened in
astonishment at the depths of his soulful scorns. Naturally, Anna hated it and her brother,
unlike Marvin, was at a loss for words. As love goes, time passed..., Anna
forgave Marvin and even grew to appreciate the creative genius in Gaye’s
unspeakable truths.
Marvin enjoying a rare,
back seat moment
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Gaye’s plan was simple…, record something mediocre, and get
the settlement over with and Anna out of his life forever. Instead, over the years the double LP became
an epic masterpiece and arguably one of the most coveted of Gaye's collection. And, one of the best LPs every black household should have.
1 love,
Ray Lewis